CHAPTER 5—THE FANTASY BYPASS

What does it mean? Merriam-Webster defines bypass as a transitive verb meaning "to avoid, neglect or ignore." The Fantasy Bypass means that instead of allowing inappropriate sexual attraction to lead us into the realm of imagination, we consciously choose another path.

But why should we deny ourselves harmless pleasure? Because it's not entirely harmless. Remember, sexual energy is lifeforce, and when we use it irresponsibly, we deplete our own stores of wellness. Energetically, we can negatively impact others as well, especially if we fantasize about one who may not be a consenting participant in real life. No need to elaborate on this point. But there's good news! The alternate path can lead to harmless bliss, and it's far easier than you might think.

How to practice the Fantasy Bypass in response to sexual arousal. Close your eyes and physically turn them upward as if you're looking through the fontanelle. Imagine it is still an open portal, just as it was when you were newly born. Automatically, your facial muscles will relax and your breathing will begin to deepen.

While fully aware of the kundalini swirling in your sacral chakra, keep your attention on the breath and constantly refocus your gaze upward. Your upward gaze is the bypass because it circumvents fantasy. Inexplicably, pleasure intensifies. It's really that simple.

Even if your chakras are blocked, patient persistence may move the kundalini all the way up through the fontanelle. But if memories and emotions surface along the way and demand your attention, terminate the process by saying ENOUGH! Then take all the time you need before you resume, even if it's a day or a week. No rush.

With preparation, a gentle experience is assured. How can you prepare? Regular practice of the exact same technique in the absence of sexual arousal primes the pump. In this case, I wouldn't call it the Fantasy Bypass; it's just a simple meditation. Nonetheless, the kundalini slowly rises. The experience is pleasant, if not ecstatic, but, if ecstasy is what you're going for—and why not?—you'll be ready for a smooth ride through the chakras the next time arousal occurs.

Bear in mind, the Fantasy Bypass addresses inappropriate sexual arousal. It's not always inappropriate. I received the practice in meditation long ago when I was attracted to a man who was off-limits. It has brought me to the heights of ecstasy and helped me to resolve devastating emotions. That's why I am sharing. Despite my personal understanding, I'm not an expert on Tantra, kundalini or the chakras. If you need help or want more information, my first recommendation is the lovely Aluna Ash.

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